I forget, why is polygamy illegal??

Anyone who knows me knows that i am a big fan of Big Love. I finally secured and watched the second season and margene wants her husband to take a fourth wife because she wants a best friend to be there with her and to have as a sister or 'sister-wife' if you're up on the lingo.
Living out in the middle of no-damn-where, i sometimes pine for a friend also. If i were to be polygamous, i'd choose my best friend. But i can't say i'd be too cool with her sleeping with my husband. Even though, and thankfully if it were a real possibility, she doesn't want to have anymore kids anyway. But that's the way i'd want it...i'd want my best friend to live here, but i wouldn't want her to ever, ever, ever touch my husband... i've read a lot of "polygamy is natural" BS out there..if it's so natural to be polygamous, why then would i turn homicidal on my best friend if she were to share a marital bed with my husband?

The big polygamy issue for most people is this: Is it a choice or not? when i was married to a muslim, i was keenly aware that it was not, and if i didn't like it, then he just wasn't going to tell me about it. it's why he's and Ex.

But on a more logical note, There would be some pretty serious issues aside from bed sharing. I'd want the second wife to share my view of child-rearing, which i can't ever seem to find a woman who does. I don't accept whining and crying for things or power struggles out of kids...they are manipulative by nature and once they've got you figured out, you're as good as screwed, so you had just better be one who isn't easily manipulated. my policy is: if you cry for it or lie for it, you're definitely not getting it. too many women give in and their kids run all over them and it is so sad to see the kids put on their innocent child faces and get away with everything. If i had a wife, i would expect her to be aware of the rules of children and that we don't accept tantrums out of anyone over the age of 3. By then, they should have developed at least minimal negotiating skills, or at the very least the ability to say that they don't like something and maybe even why.

The bed situation...i know some people aren't cool with three in a bed, but to be honest, i'd like to have a blanket buffer so i actually got to keep some of it at night! My DH kicks it all down to the bottom of the bed so it would be nice to just pull it over to our side. But I would NOT be cool w/ the sex...especially if i had to sleep somewhere else..i went to a lot of trouble to find a nice bed, i'm not giving it up half-time: they can find someplace else.

See? i'm just too selfish and jealous to have a wife...i'd probably do some really childish things to make her life miserable so she'd either go away or know her place...and that's probably why it's illegal. So women don't get stuck with other women who would make life hell. I imagine it's harder to divorce two people when it's really only one of them that makes you crazy. What women really need doesn't seem to be polygamy, it seems to be that women need friendship with other women who have their own separate lives away from another woman's bed, home and husband.

Nobody likes me, Everybody hates me, guess i'll sit at home alone?

Everything is horrible! I'm lonely as hell with no one to talk to, we're default on the mortgage, we can't pay any bills, I've been in a custody battle for 4 years that exhausts me, I'm about to have another baby and I'm uneducated so i can't even contribute an income without losing money every month, and I'm being sued for child support which i can't afford to pay and not have to file for a million different public benefits.

Even Goodwill is too expensive! According to the state, we make too much to get food stamps or any other benefits everyone else seems to get, so we're trying to live on $700/month when our mortgage is $1150 an our bills by themselves are $800...It used to be easier than this! We actually used to make enough to cover this and all of our other expenses..and then my DH took a job on salary, which was supposed to go up and up and up, and he never moved in the pay scale, despite the fact that he was promised it. And so there we were, struggling like we haven't struggled since our beginning days of ramen and liquid vitamins (the poverty diet, i called it) and this time, we have kids to care for. I just want to talk to someone! I want to cry about it to someone; ANYONE!

And that's when it hit me: I'm just one of several million people whose family is going down fast with no end in sight. I don't want to lose my house, but what can i do? I can't make any money to give to the cause and with so many others experiencing the same problem, it will be pretty difficult to reach out and get some help. We were lucky enough to renegotiate our loan and get a fixed rate of less than 6%.
And we are still coming up short, with no Overtime in sight. What i wouldn't give for OT pay!!!! That would be almost $15/hr! we may actually get by then, too bad DH isn't getting many calls to repair A/Cs in December.
He probably won't start picking up any overtime until may. that's six months away with the newest member of our family due in Jan, she'll be six months old before we can afford to have her. If we manage to keep the house. It may be easier to afford things when we live in our car, which should be sometime in February. We may be able to stretch it till march, If we don't eat anything.

If you're going to be PC, you have to let liars lie

I was on a site dicussing religion and called someone out for lying about the doctrinal beliefs of their faith. The moderators, uneducated as they quite obviously are, ordered me to apologize.
Now, this is meant to be a christian site, so when someone lies about their faith so that their faith won't receive the scrutiny that the truth surely would bring, it makes me plenty angry. But you can't call someone out for being a liar and misleading people to avoid making their religion look crazy. As i said before, this is supposed to be a christian site, and Christ said "I have done nothing in secret." But it's okay to lie about what you believe so people don't think it's crazy?!


I'm devoutly catholic and i know people don't agree with it and some people think i'm crazy for it and that's fine, but i'm not going to openly lie about what i believe so they're more likely to convert or at least think it's a more honest faith than it is. This was a mormon chick lying about very basic doctrine...I grew up mormon and i know what they teach...but the sad thing is that the new converts aren't taught very basic doctrine...like that mormons believe that the kingdom of god will be rebuilt on the american continent and that it's fonding, the new Jerusalem, will be in jackson county missouri. Now, to me, about every faith, even my own, seems a little silly and superstitious at times, so I'm not judging what she believes...I'm mad that she lied about it and her purpose for lying was to intentionally mislead someone into believing it wasn't true. And that is sad to me...I don't care what you believe, just don't lie about it!

And the worst part is, in these "let's not offend anyone!" days, you can't even call a liar a liar! But if you tell the truth, you'll be sorely punished!

Fun stuff for bored housewives

I was online yesterday and today arguing about politics when i googled mitt romney and found digitaldanite.blospot.com . I adore this guy! He is hilarious and I think anyone who wants to know what one crazy-funny mormon guy thinks of mitt romney ought to check it out. It's a wonderful site..I'm not sure if it's satire like landoverbaptist or not, but it is very funny.

Also, a fun site for the wives who can't stand to be online and unproductive, there is the housewivestarot.com! Get ur tarot reading and a great recipe for meatloaf! My favorite us psychic psalad. It's just good fun!

And for you beginning wives who don't know where to start, http://romanholiday.typepad.com/thehelpfulhousewife/housekeeping_college/index.html
I love the housekeeping college but have problem with my word doc stuff so i can't DL them or anything. But if you have word, go for it! She's a wonderful lady and even though the site is a little lax, it is still helpful. (it is lax becasue she has got to be the busiest woman on the planet!)

I adore being a housewife, even when I'm exhausted by pregnancy! Mostly, i just like having the luxury of staying home and being able to be a bored housewife instead of an over-scheduled crying working mom...that was how it was before and i was no good at that! So, if you are also a boerd housewife who wants to be bored for a while but not enough to not get anything done, here's where i hang out.

how bratz is killing youthful innocence

Bratz? should have called them SLUTZ



I think from the title, it's pretty obvious that i hate bratz. They are dolls made to look like skanks and being sold to little girls under the guise of "originality in personality" These are not original in any way, shape or form. What they are is an adult marketing gimmick being aimed at children, in particular girls.

What it basically comes down to is this: These dolls perpetuate the idea of little girls being sexual creatures, even so much that they themselves think that way. they have no idea of the implications or that by emulating these characters, they are putting themselves in a potentially harmful situation. Parents are supposed to be in-tune with this sort of thing so that they can "smell the rat" as it were and avoid it. I see these pro-bratz parents as failures in parenting.

They don't understand that letting little girls dress-up in sexy clothes and play in make-up is what pedophiles do to "groom" little girls for abuse. Now, they don't have to put in that kind of effort because girls as young as 3 years old are wearing t-shirts tat say things like "slut" and "tramp" on them, and asking "do i look sexy?"
These same parents don't know where the sexual offenders in their area live because their thinking is that it can't happen to them. Many of these parents are also very religious, which is a bit of a contradiction in that they claim to want to protect their children and teach them about god and purity and all that, while simultaneously dressing them like mini-hookers and avoiding discussing what sex is and that they shouldn't let anyone touch them in their "private places".

You can't set your daughters up to think that their value is on what they look like and be body-centric, and then turn around and expect them to understand that their true value comes from who they are. If you've taught them to disrespect themselves and to have no dignity, you can't then expect them to behave in a dignified way. That is why my poor 12 yr old niece is considering sex. Because at 12, it has permeated the culture. she has friends that are already pregnant...because they aren't aware that sex has consequences, the least of which is pregnancy.
She knows several 12 yr olds whose 'boyfriends' are in their 20s and say things like " if you want a boy to like you, you have to have sex with him, even if it hurts really bad."
And my niece was on the cusp of the bratz phenomenon. she was about 8 when they were gaining popularity. She even worries for her 5 yr old sister who dresses in mini skirts and wants to be a "bratz" when she gets her boobies.
Sex and romantic relationships are being promoted to children in a way i cannot possibly grasp fully. In a conversation i had, i was informed that in an episode of "that's so raven" a seven yr old is trying to get two other seven yr olds to be in a relationship, and the boy likes and older girl and wants her to be his "woman". Since when did it become acceptable to refer to a woman by her gender as a form of endearment? This is what our kids are absorbing, whether we like to admit it or not.

Maybe if more parents weren't relying on TV and movies to raise their kids and actually did it themselves, they'd get it.



note: I tried very hard to find a pic of a prostitute/hooker/slut to compare w/ the bratz dolls, but i couldn't find one where the women in the pictures wore as little or as slutty clothing...sorry.

what's the big deal with Ron Paul?

I guess what's so impressive about him is that he just answers the questions that get asked of him. Watch him get interviewed by a seasoned journalist like Bob Scheiffer. Now, usually, B gets really pissed off at the politicos he interviews because they half-answer or don't answer at all. But while interviewing Paul, he seemed to listen in awe of the man.
I noticed this abject fascination when he was interviewed by jon stewart and steven colbert. They just listened with bright eyes the way people used to listen with bright eyes to JFK. ( who was a political hero if not a philandering husband.) He has captivated the nation with his honesty. And that's what people like. He's handsome enough, yes, but that is not where the widespread attraction lies. I really think it's becasue he's just out there, saying what he thinks, standing by the constitution because he believes in it. And that is what makes people believe in him.
I don't agree with everything he does, but I definitely do not disagree with his stance on my being able to homeschool my kids. I put my daughter into the public school system reading at a second-grade level and doing addition and subtraction and now, in the first grade, she has to relearn all of that, because it wasn't utilized and she has forgotten it. ( I was also home-schooled and went into the public school system in the 5th grade and left in the 10th grade having LITERALLY gained NO knowledge, but instead lost much of what had been basic knowledge.)

i like his whole "the government can't tell you what you can and can't put into your body" attitude while still maintaining that every life, even a fetus, has a constitutional right to be born. (actually, it's in the declaration of independence..."life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness") What does concern me is this: if a woman is a meth addict and gets pregnant, what's going to happen to that baby? Since he is pro-life, I'd like to know how he would handle the situation.
I don't know if i'll vote for him or not, and there are a lot of questions i'd like to ask him, but i can definitely see why he is so captivating.

TODAY'S MANTRA: I WILL BE THE PERFET HOUSEWIFE

or at least i will APPEAR to be the perfect housewife. I'm not in the mood to clean or cook or do anything that means i have to leave the computer for more than five seconds. So, how do you motivate a tired, lazy housewife? that's really the question at hand.

I keep saying to myself "If you just get up and do it, it will be done before you know it, and you'll be happier that you got it done."

But i know that is false...it will take twice as long and i'll be more tired than i was when i started. But it still has to get done...I wish i were rich and could hire a maid to do it for me. But then, i'd just feel badly because she'd have to go home and clean her own house, so i'd basically clean for her and still pay her.

I am looking up some books to help me try to find some way to learn to do this stuff effectively and found one that at least looks fun to read:

HOW TO BE THE PERFECT HOUSEWIFE: LESSONS IN THE ART OF MODERN HOME MANAGEMENT by ANTHEA TURNER

I can at lest ILL it at my local library...i need all the help i can get! If I had grown-up in the fifties, they would have taught me this in school or i could at least have taken classes in college. They should bring back domestic science so that those of us who want to learn to manage our home effectively would actually have the skills.


I have been very lonely these days. No one calls or really seems to want to talk at all. i feel like i am out on a sea alone and i turn to the cyber world for comfort. But where can i find it here?
join a blogring and ask for help? if i do that, i may never get any work done. i always liked chatting with friends while i clean or cook, it makes the day go faster and i get a lot done. But in the rush to make christmas money, everyone's taken seasonal jobs and no one is home. Or they are busy blogging themselves...ACK! when i decided to become a housewife, i didn't consider how terribly isolating it would be. I wish someone had said to me "keep a network of other SAHMs so you don't go insane." I'd take a SAHD too, but my husband wouldn't hear of it...And the only SAHD i know is kind of a creep.
*sigh* i wish i could take a personal day and go network at the library or something, but i don't have a car and it is tough to live in the country and have no car...i spend a lot of time in a fantasy land where i can get it all done and then find myself crying at the end of the day becasue it didn't happen.
I hang my hopes on a phone call perhaps coming in so i can at least hear another adult talk about something NOT having to do with getting that darned stain out or how to soothe an ouchie.
'Where will it end?' i ask myself...and then i remember: 'a woman's work is NEVER done.' and taht is the truth!